You and your family
Your child's communication development
As your child grows, you’ll notice their communication develops quickly.
They move from using single words and gestures to understanding more, speaking in sentences and sharing their thoughts and ideas.
What you might notice
From around 2 to 3 years
- using more words and starting short sentences
- understanding simple instructions
- naming familiar objects and people
- enjoying songs, rhymes and stories
From around 3 to 4 years
- speaking in longer sentences
- asking questions like "what?" and "why?"
- talking about things that have happened
- joining in with conversations and play
All children follow their own path, and progress can come in bursts.
Why communication development matters
Communication helps your child to:
- understand the world around them
- express their needs and feelings
- build relationships with others
- develop confidence and learning
These skills support behaviour, learning and friendships as your child grows.
How you can support your child
You don't need lots of equipment or structured activities. Simple, everyday moments make a big difference.
Talk and listen
- talk about what you're doing during the day
- listen and respond to your child
- give them time to respond and to explain what they mean in their own words – don't try to fill the gaps
Read, sing and play
- share books and talk about pictures – consider joining one of Oxfordshire's libraries
- sing songs and nursery rhymes
- use play to build conversation
Follow their lead
- notice what your child is interested in
- join in and describe what they're doing
- keep interactions relaxed and fun
Use simple language and choices
- keep sentences simple and clear
- repeat words often
- encourage choices ("apple or banana?")
Communication develops through everyday interactions – little and often makes a big difference.
Trust your instincts – you know your child best
You may want to speak to someone if:
- your child finds it difficult to understand or use words
- their speech is hard to follow or not developing
- you have any concerns about communication
You don't need to wait. Speak to your health visitor or GP if you have any questions.
Resources and support
- Learning conversations and telling stories: 3 to 5 years (Best Start in Life - NHS) - get activities and tips to boost learning, communication and early development
- Speech and Language UK - advice if parents are concerned about talking, understanding or communication
- Speech and Language Therapy (Children's Integrated Therapies) - local NHS referral information and support
- Contact - advice, support and helplines for families with disabled children
- CBeebies parenting – ideas, videos and activities to support speech and language
- NHS Start for Life – parenting support
- Words for life (National Literacy Trust) – early literacy support
- BookTrust (free books and story ideas)
- Family Information Service - find a range of activities. Meeting new friends and getting out and about can be a great way to build confidence and develop communication skills
Pop into one of our family hubs
Family hubs provide ongoing support after your baby arrives, including activities, family services and opportunities to meet other parents.
Family Information Service
There are many groups, clubs and activities for children and their families across Oxfordshire. Take a look at some of them near you.
If you feel you need a little extra help
At times, children and families need a bit of extra support – and when that happens, it’s ok to ask for help.
You could be worried about your health or the health of your children, you could have financial worries or be caring for someone. You’re not alone. Take a look at our early help pages for advice on how we can help support you.
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